Tell me if this is wrong? Can a husband buy his wife lipstick if said wife isnt present. NK surprised me with a bag from Nordstroms. It contained 2 lip gloss,a lipstick and a Chanel nail polish. He gave it to me last night,he claims he bought it a few days ago and hid it under our bed. I was touched and felt guilty that I didnt buy him anything.
That guilt went away when I used the lipstick and saw how horribly wrong it was for me. I went screaming at him.
“Why did u buy this for me? I buy lipsticks from the drugstore. Covergirl, Neutrogena,Maybelline. They are all less than $10. Who buys $40 lipstick. Why couldnt you buy me a perfume, a Chanel No 5 or something”
Nk:
“I knew it! Nordstroms didnt have a line thats why I went there. And The salesgirl warned me that it might not suit but I told her I knew my wife”
Me: What, she warns you and yet you buy the dumb lipstick. You better not have thrown the reciept and you better pray that they take it back.
NK:
You always do this. I bought you diamond earringsand I dont even know where they are. I bought you an expensive Angora sweater and you returned that as well.
Me:
1. That earring, I wear them when I am dressed up. I wore them at the wedding.
2.That sweater was horrible. It look like it was for someone over the age of 60. I cannot help it if you have old man’s taste.
NK:
Jo karna hai karo..Dont ever expect me to buy gifts for you again.This is the last time!
Me:
Just give me gift cards or cash. Or tell me I can go out without kid for 2-3 hours. That will be the best present. Where is the receipt now? I need boots and will buy that with the money and pretend you gave them to me. And I dont even use nail polish. Why would you buy nail polish?
So that was Christmas morning at the Asaaanland. Tell me if I am wrong. Buying lipstick for your wife when wife is not there is wrong right. And wo wears Chanel nail polish. I dont even use nail polish. I can get my boots there now.He said I am bitchy wife who doesnt appreciate him. I do feel a little guilty but its not something I can keep and use it once in a while. Its expensive and I can use that money to buy something really useful there. What would you have done?
I’m on both of your sides…It’s great that he thought to buy you a gift, but then he bought you the wrong gift (sort of based on laziness, since he didn’t want to stand in line) and also with little thought to what you like/wear. Hopefully you can return it and get those boots (I highly recommend Uggs…freaking warmest boots ever) and pretend they are from him.
Me: I couldnt find a boots. either the heels were too high or the lenght was too not right or it was $500
Neverthless, I bought clothes.. a Size 12 and Medium..woohoo:)
I used to not like G’s gifts for me, but now I think after sometime he’s understood NOT to buy me weird jackets or purses that he would purchase for his mom as well (I don’t like being in the same category as his Mom hehe). NK should take your criticism and apply it for next time, and then next time you’ll also be more appreciative. (How I hate the word appreciative…have heard that I lack it now after having a baby…go fig!).
Me:I told him to just give a coupon that says 2 hours off or no diaper changes for the entire day. I will appreciate that much more.:)
And now I’ll stop writing a novel. Happy Holidays, hope you had a nice Christmas regardless!
Me:It was nice. We walked around Golden Gate Bridge and Fisherman Wharfs yesterday
Hello!
So you know where I work, right?
They will take it back, I promise.
If they don’t let me know.
And even after my discount, I haven’t dared to buy there.
Me:ooohh so how much is your discount. They took it back without a question!
Such a familiar story! IMHO, at the time you receive the gift, try and appreciate it, and then, a couple of hours later maybe, ask if he wouldn’t mind if you changed it .
I can see where both of you are coming from, but a slight time delay usually works in saving egos!
Me:After being married for 11 years and together for 13, he should at least know I wouldnt like makeup..:)
Weelll… you *could* have handled that better
But hey at least he got you a gift. The husband and I have a standing rule in the house – we give each other IOUs – that way we can buy what we want when we want (don’t have to be tied down to anniversaries and birthdays) without feeling guilty.
Me:See above about being nice. I waited a whole 8 hours before saying anything. That counts right ?:)
Merry christmas and Happy new Year by the way – hope you get something you like in exchange
Priya.
Me:I didnt find any boots. I wanted boots. I got about $85 back from Nordstroms and went to Mervyns(which is closing down and had everything off 80%) and got a bunch of clothes. And he approved it All is right for now.
First rule of being a lady, be gracious! The fact is, your husband took the time and effort to buy you a Christmas present. I think he did quite well considering he is a MAN! Not many men know a ton of about makeup/cosmetics so don’t blame him for that! The thing is, you gotta be gracious about receiving a present. That’s the most important thing.
Me:but But I was gracious to him. He gave it tom Christmas eve and I told him he rocked and gave him a bit of *cough cough* nocturnal action.(my dad and younger cousins read this blog)
LOL @nocturnal action
Though its appreciable that being a man he atleast tried to be so sweet, still its always good to stick to known ground incase of gifts. Cash sounds impersonal to people but I like cash more. Or atleast take me along and pay for what I buy!
Me:My whole family reads this blog. I know I cannot put up any information out here.I think he isnt going to buy me anything for the next 3-4 years until he forgets about this.
LOL! I shall now be all smug about dating a guy who has ALL the good qualities of a gay guy or girl friend but is most definitely heterosexual!
(Those qualities also have their dark side but I’d rather have both than neither!)
Me:I hate you!
I think its sweet he makes the effort. Appreciate the thought behind it I guess and then go and return the gift
What can I say, its a tricky situation!
Me:Already returned and I bought something else. See reference to bitch above.
You’re an ungrateful bitch and lack tact to boot
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Me:I am>..I know!
But it’s true that after 13 yrs he should have known better. Though people are known to change over time so maybe he was just checking you out.
I think with mine we’re starting to come to some understanding. If I really want something, I talk about it from time to time. Since he wouldn’t have the time to go look for it, he’ll just tell me to go get it myself. It’s not the same as me just going ahead to buy me something w/o 1st letting him know. That’s my gift to me. And I don’t like his surprises, we do not have the same taste and should just live with that. I hope that I’ve made that clear enough (e.g. keep buying him things he doesn’t like to get the point across).
Me:I was talking about the Wii and Wii Fit and he refused to take that hint. What can I do?
For x’mas as usual he didn’t buy me anything. But I kept insisting it’s OK with me, I don’t really mind that as I have more fun buying gifts for others. Then the next day, he announced to his family that I could go ahead and buy myself a diamond and spend as much as I want. That’s so sweet, don’t you think so?
Me:I saw your emerald ring..Thats reallly pretty. And you get to buy another one!
Poor guy. I’m kinda on his side.
And this is why you should date/marry a woman.
Me:rofl
Awww, but you were able to return it so it’s okay now, isn’t it?
This is the problem with ‘surprise’ gifts. He shoulda done his homework better. Although it *definitely* counts that he spent the time and effort shopping for beloved you!
Me:Yup all is okay now!
So dad was reading this post, he was trying to explain to mum…
So mum said u r k*** and that you should always “ahbishake” what your husband gives you..
So I quoted examples of when dad gave her things and what she did wif it.
So like mother like daughter.
So after reading this post dad was reading BB and AB post.
And he asked mum “This is the pasir ris house?
and mum said “He gave her lipstick in the pasir ris house house”??
Lol….
Well is more funny if u hear how she says it.
P/S:Mum says the gifts are nice.
Me:Yes tell her it is nice but doesnt suit my skin tone. She would said, keep it for then I know. And she is confused lah..
Oh my gosh… that whole conversation could have been heard in our household too. When we first got married, AJ told himself that he would buy me a piece of jewelry for every special occasion. The first time, he bought gold jewelry that looked like it was for an older woman. I never wore them and we did have a big fight about it and he swore never to buy me a gift again. Yet, he still tries every so often, and like NK, fails horribly. I know he is trying to be sweet and romantic, but I am like you – give me a gift card anyday, and 2-3 hours without the kids would be HEAVEN.
By the way, if you still haven’t gotten your boots, let’s go shopping this weekend if you can get away in the evening. I need boots too.
Me:Arghh sounds like some men need to take lessons. We have to teach our boys to be better gift givers.:)
think this is the first time I am seeing all of ur kids at one time..v v super cute
Me:Thanks! Its is really tough to get a picture of all 4 of them.
Just say thanks and then when the colour doesn’t suit, ask if it’s possible to exchange. If not, mix with another colour and wear.
Criticising a gift is done only when I’m in a really nasty mood.
Me:Hmmm..Next time maybe
oh well! he tried! and you got what you wanted eventually! fair enough!
you know i think most self help books are crap, but one thing i learnt from men ar from mars kinda crap is that men are NOT intutive not great listeners!
its best to just ask for what you want!
M has improved tremendously! ofcos he sticks to clothes and i must admit tho initially i freak out seeing stuff he has bought, eventually it does look darn good!
perfume and make uo shake up, he knows he shouldnt bother with!
happy new year lady! and the family!
cheers!
Me:I know! I told him cash/gift card and time alone to do something I want..He is now insisting he will NEVER BUY ME ANYTHING.
A very Happy New Year to you S!
You might find this interesting – I work on a software product that manages returns for some very famous retailers… we were swamped with return traffic the day after Xmas… does it help (your husband) to know you have so much company?
Me:Ha!Good to know
I don’t know, my husband gets me stuff very very rarely, mostly when he goes abroad or on birthdays(not always!). And the reason he gives me is that I don’t appreciate what he gets. Now, I do get disappointed when he gets useless stuff at exorbitant prices, but at the same time it is far more disappointing not getting a gift at all
Don’t let that happen to you… To be honest, a $40 nail polish would pinch me lots but I would still love it if he had the courage to get it for me!
Me:My mom called and told me I should have given it to her. I dont know seriously a 40 Chanel and $1.99 Walgreens wala nail polish, no one can tell the difference.