Comments on: Day 23/ Heavy Heart http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/ Thrifting, Parenting and More Fri, 18 May 2012 01:11:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Abha http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5798 Abha Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:49:45 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5798 things will turn out ok. you did what you could and went ahead and told the principal. something similar happened at Cubby's school. not witch hunt level. but a kid bit another kid and cub. me i just said shit happens and left it at that. the other mother made SUCH a scene. the young teacher was in tears! i knew i couldnt fight 20 other crazy mothers. so i just gave the teacher a personalized note next day saying not to be too hard on herself and that such things happen. am sure things will work out fine. its not just your karma, innit? its her as well! :) cheers! things will turn out ok. you did what you could and went ahead and told the principal.

something similar happened at Cubby’s school. not witch hunt level. but a kid bit another kid and cub. me i just said shit happens and left it at that. the other mother made SUCH a scene. the young teacher was in tears! i knew i couldnt fight 20 other crazy mothers.

so i just gave the teacher a personalized note next day saying not to be too hard on herself and that such things happen.

am sure things will work out fine. its not just your karma, innit? its her as well! :)

cheers!

]]> By: AverageJane http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5794 AverageJane Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:30:34 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5794 I hope the system works this time and does the right thing. I hope the system works this time and does the right thing.

]]> By: Lakshmi http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5788 Lakshmi Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:48:00 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5788 I think you stood up for what you believed, which is the way to go. Life is not fair. I think the teacher still will get a chance to get her act together. I think you stood up for what you believed, which is the way to go. Life is not fair. I think the teacher still will get a chance to get her act together.

]]> By: Smitha http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5785 Smitha Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:59:39 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5785 Don't beat yourself up with it.. You really did play fair.. and provided honest feedback.. Lets hope that they don't treat her too harshly. I think you really did your best.. Don’t beat yourself up with it.. You really did play fair.. and provided honest feedback.. Lets hope that they don’t treat her too harshly. I think you really did your best..

]]> By: Poppy http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5784 Poppy Thu, 19 Nov 2009 09:52:56 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5784 Hey its ok - you didn't start the witch hunt and you just provided your honest feedback - don't be so hard on yourself. Hey its ok – you didn’t start the witch hunt and you just provided your honest feedback – don’t be so hard on yourself.

]]> By: Monika http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5783 Monika Thu, 19 Nov 2009 06:45:55 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5783 dont be hard on urself... hugs dont be hard on urself…

hugs

]]> By: roisin http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5782 roisin Thu, 19 Nov 2009 03:56:36 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5782 I so agree with Suma, at this young age consistency is really important. Her absences are documented and ultimately that will probably be her downfall and not what Im sure the school administration can see as the stirrings of a bunch of over zealous gossips with too much time on their hands. I think that the whole shitstorm that happened over the h1n1 really showed you what nasty bitches those other moms are and now you must feel lumped in with them. You know now going forward what they are made of and you just have to keep your chin up (or as my Dad would say "keep your pecker up"--pecker meaning nose but o my is it funny on another level) and be extra wary of what they will cook up next. hugs, that must have been really tough today. <em>Me: keep your pecker up..I am going to throw that out at random times. I dont know whats going to happen to the teacher..sigh</em> I so agree with Suma, at this young age consistency is really important. Her absences are documented and ultimately that will probably be her downfall and not what Im sure the school administration can see as the stirrings of a bunch of over zealous gossips with too much time on their hands. I think that the whole shitstorm that happened over the h1n1 really showed you what nasty bitches those other moms are and now you must feel lumped in with them. You know now going forward what they are made of and you just have to keep your chin up (or as my Dad would say “keep your pecker up”–pecker meaning nose but o my is it funny on another level) and be extra wary of what they will cook up next.
hugs, that must have been really tough today.

Me: keep your pecker up..I am going to throw that out at random times. I dont know whats going to happen to the teacher..sigh

]]> By: june http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5781 june Thu, 19 Nov 2009 03:56:31 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5781 I understand that you feel bad that this woman may lose her job. If it makes you feel any better, it probably would have happened whether or not you signed the petition. I once prevented a woman from coming onto my project because I had worked with her before and didn't think she stood out among the other people in line for the position. She was a nice person, but just not motivated. Based on my feedback, someone else was given the position, and she was subsequently laid off from the company because no project wanted her. I had several bad dreams that she was homeless because of me. But really, it wasn't MY fault. It was HER fault for not working harder, and it may have been a blessing in disguise, because maybe it forced her to do something else, something she enjoyed and was good at. So, maybe this teacher doesn't really like being a kindergarten teacher, and this would force her to find something else she would be happier with. I understand that you feel bad that this woman may lose her job. If it makes you feel any better, it probably would have happened whether or not you signed the petition.

I once prevented a woman from coming onto my project because I had worked with her before and didn’t think she stood out among the other people in line for the position. She was a nice person, but just not motivated. Based on my feedback, someone else was given the position, and she was subsequently laid off from the company because no project wanted her. I had several bad dreams that she was homeless because of me. But really, it wasn’t MY fault. It was HER fault for not working harder, and it may have been a blessing in disguise, because maybe it forced her to do something else, something she enjoyed and was good at.

So, maybe this teacher doesn’t really like being a kindergarten teacher, and this would force her to find something else she would be happier with.

]]> By: starry eyed http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5780 starry eyed Thu, 19 Nov 2009 03:31:12 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5780 Awww...I know how that feels. I hate when moms do that witch hunt. And I usually am the one feeling bad for the teacher...most teachers can improve their skills n attitudes given proper feedback and training AND experience. Maybe she just needs some re-training. I would give some constructive feedback and do-able suggestions (in writing) so she could at least do a better job next time (if they don't take away her license). I've done that with some school issues and had a really good response. and I totally get what you say abt it being the first child. I'm in the same boat with Dhruv...I find some of his classmates' moms more hyper-reactive since it's their first kid...like I used to be...complaining abt really trivial stuff. Awww…I know how that feels. I hate when moms do that witch hunt. And I usually am the one feeling bad for the teacher…most teachers can improve their skills n attitudes given proper feedback and training AND experience. Maybe she just needs some re-training. I would give some constructive feedback and do-able suggestions (in writing) so she could at least do a better job next time (if they don’t take away her license). I’ve done that with some school issues and had a really good response.

and I totally get what you say abt it being the first child. I’m in the same boat with Dhruv…I find some of his classmates’ moms more hyper-reactive since it’s their first kid…like I used to be…complaining abt really trivial stuff.

]]> By: suma http://asaaan.com/2009/11/18/day-23-heavy-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-5779 suma Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:52:08 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2167#comment-5779 i wish i knew what to say...but this i know when a teacher is absent a lot, some kids don't like the changes...In Singapore, my 5 yrold had like 3 teachers in 4 months and i could see that he was getting very upset. take heart...and i wish things work out for the lady i wish i knew what to say…but this i know when a teacher is absent a lot, some kids don’t like the changes…In Singapore, my 5 yrold had like 3 teachers in 4 months and i could see that he was getting very upset.

take heart…and i wish things work out for the lady

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