I dont like mushrooms
Flowers with a unwilling child
This was suppose to be posted yesterday but I didnt have time to upload the pictures nor log onto the the site. They were suppose to lead up to today’s Monday MoneySavers. Which I might post tomorrow or later tonight. 3rd child is home from school. He is one of the most demanding child when sick. He doesnt just lie in bed when ill.. Nope, he will demand that his head hurts and I rub his forehead or that he is thirsty or that his socks need adjusting.( Gets that from NK, or maybe its something that hardwired into all males,become whiny when sick)
Tat’s so sad…hope the lil one recover soon.
Btw, Awesome pictures sunitha….just luv it.
Around a week back i went to this GW store near to my place and dropped some toys and 2 pairs brand new of shoes(which was bought last year). That was the first time i was donating things to a GW store(usually i give it to a church nearby/put it in drop off boxes).Whenever we give donations to charity , i’ve seen DH keeping the receipts for tax deduction, so keeping that in mind i asked the sales person for a receipt and also got one(but I don’t think it’s of much use). And promptly put the items in donation box. This weekend , I ran into that salesperson and she told me that she’s in a weird situation now, that she took the shoes that i donated for her kid and her boss caught her her taking it.So she told boss that i was her cousin and i had given her those shoes. I don’t want her to lose her job or anything because of my shoes , so told her that i’ll talk to her manager.
The thing is she looks like in her late 40′s and i really don’t think that she must be having a kid for such a small age(but yeah you never know). Anyway she asked me whether i had the receipt with me then(which i didn’t).Anyway she asked me whether i can get the receipt and give it to her.I said i’ll look for it and if at all i find i’ll bring in.
Later when i thot abt it, i felt bad for what she did. She could have asked me directly and i would have given to her/anyone whom i felt will make good use for it.
What should i do? Should i support her and tell her boss that i gave it to her? or Tell her that i couldn’t find the receipt(which i did find).
I don’t know .I am in a dilemma…there’s a tug of war in my mind – i don’t want her to lose the job because of some shoes, tat too in this economy. Also,
i don’t wanna support someone who did the wrong thing. What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Me: Wow interesting dilemma. I dont know what would I do. If its something that she is doing regularly, ie taking donations for her own benefit and this is the first time she got caught and you have to be the bad person. I dont know…I think if it was me, I would go with my gut feeling. What kind of vibe do you get from her? Do you think she is lying? What do you have to tell the manager? Then you are lying… if you say you are her cousin. Let me think about this more. Lets see what the other commenters say?
NK’s comment was that you shouldnt go back to the store. This way, you need not lie and you can avoid facing this woman.
Read roisin’s reply below as well.
Great pictures!
And hey, I blogrolled you. But your updates don’t show on my blog roll
Why is that, any idea?
ohh to be frank, ideally she shouldn’t have taken the shoes.. she should have asked lux’s permission first!
Ideally, she should not be taking those shoes but then again, if lux goes and complains to the manager and the lady loses her job, it will keep bugging her conscience. Anyhoo, its the manager’s job to keep an eye on the lady and I am sure he/she will do that from now on and prevent anymore of these occurences.
Me:So should Lux lie that she gave those shoes? Or not?
and the pics look amazing,spclly the oranges and the strawberries !!!
At last I get to see some of your photography experiments…awesome!
Me: Thank you!.
I highly doubt this was the first time this woman did this. But it shouldnt be a worry to you that she looses her job, so if there is anyway you can sidestep turning her in, short of lying, I would do that. I would bet that if this manager is worth anything he or she will now watch this woman like a hawk and eventually catch her in whatever she is ( in my opinion) up to. I wouldnt lie, she said you were her cousin and I wouldnt keep that charade going. THats her problem, she came up with that and she has to get out of it and it is ridiculous to ask a stranger to do that. Because she did do that makes me think shes been doing this for a while and unluckily for you, you asked for a receipt and she got caught taking your donation. I would feel badly about her loosing her job as well were I in your shoes (no pun intended
), but honestly I think she made her bed and its not down to you to sort her out. A long time ago I had a friend who managed a store in Boston that took donations of very nice home wares and clothing, mostly higher end name brands new and used, and re sold them and the proceeds went to local aids patients. This woman I knew took some very nice items at a much greater discount than she should have –sometimes a 100% discount– and once just gave me a couple of yards of this gorgeous batik fabric I had seen in the store and mentioned I wanted to buy. I told her I couldnt take it, she pressed me to, and I did mostly because I am still and was much more then very non confrontational. I felt terrible then and I feel terrible 10 plus years later about it. I made a skirt out of it and I have never been able to wear it comfortably and it sits in my closet and I feel guilty every time I see it. I think I keep it there to remind me to always do the right thing in a way. rationally I know that it was a drop in the bucket of funds going to aids patients, but those drops make a river and I just feel awful that I didnt stand my ground and say no. It would have been bad enough if this were from a regular retail store, let alone one that did good works!
You did a great thing in donating, and that good deed was punished and its not your fault and you shouldnt be dragged into a mess because of it.
Roisin, let go of the guilt. Donate $20 to the Aids foundation if you have too.
I have to tell you a story.
Once, a long time ago when Ashwina was a 10 month old infant and I was nervous first time mom. I had gone to the mall in NH. I dont remember whether NK was there or not. Anyways, the infant was crazy crying and wanted milk. I took the container of milk powder, you know the one that is segmented and you put the right amount of scoops for one bottle. Crazy screaming child and I was trying to make the milk as fast as possible. I was sitting on one of the couches in Macys or something. The milk container split and I said FUCK in the loudest voice possible. There was a family walking by at the same momment with young kids. The mom gives me the most horrible look,while the dad gives me Whats wrong with you crazy indian lady cursing in English. The 2 kids walking look like I have horns.
I still feel so bad about that moment. Ashwina is turning 11 this year and I still remember that family. Has that stopped me from cursing?Uhmm no!!.. But I try to do it softly or do it in another language now.
I have a really hard time letting go of guilt period, its that Irish Catholic guilt shit that plagues me even though Im a card carrying atheist! I have to say in response to your story that that family was equally out of line. I get a loud FUCK was probably inappropriate for the environment, but NOT for the context. Id like to think that mother who gave you the look was probably in your shoes once upon a time with a screaming infant on a bad day and she easily could have given you a a sympathetic look and later explained to her kids the situation and why cursing isnt ok but sometimes it happens! THese are the moments that not only stay with us but are a great example about how just a look of sympathy instead of accusation can change a life even on a minute level. I bet you felt like shit for the better part of that day 11 years ago and its not about not cursing, its about that look that woman gave you and what she assumed about you in a split second. And you still remember it, I have scores of those kinds of memories myself.
Oh and Sunita, I think that the whinging is hardwired into all men from conception!
Lovely pictures! Which farmer’s market do you go to? I want ugly shiitakes!
I’m sorry to hear about your sick boy and hope he is feeling better soon. My dad is a wussy sick guy, and my husband is *DYING* at the merest hint of a sore throat. My little boy just whines and snuggles, but he’s small yet.
Really tricky situation there with Lux, but I think maybe instead of complaining to the manager ignore the situation and not go back to the store for a while. If she gets fired you won’t have to face her when you go back. If she doesn’t you know that you not lying for her didn’t change things. I think it was very unfair of her to put you in the spot like that and as Roisin says makes it appear that she has been doing this for a while. I didn’t get the whole part of why she wanted the receipt back. Is she worried you will use it against proof against her?
For the men and being sick, I’m sorry of course that Neil is sick but if you want a laugh search for mancold on youtube. It’s hilarious.
lovely pictures. Hope the lil one feels better soon