Comments on: Rules of Life. http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/ Might be on a short break. enjoy the new headers meanwhile Fri, 30 Jul 2010 04:38:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Kemma Parker http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6758 Kemma Parker Sat, 30 Jan 2010 01:57:31 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6758 Your oldest has got a good circle of non-snippy girlfriends to surround her (and she to surround them). They'll be less influenced than girls who are yearning to make 'new' friends once they hit Middle School. My $0.02, anyways. <em>Me: Plus she is now known in 3 different elementary school, plus the one she is going to go for music lessons so it should be easier. She is my first so everything about her is going to be nail biting.:)</em> Your oldest has got a good circle of non-snippy girlfriends to surround her (and she to surround them). They’ll be less influenced than girls who are yearning to make ‘new’ friends once they hit Middle School. My $0.02, anyways.

Me: Plus she is now known in 3 different elementary school, plus the one she is going to go for music lessons so it should be easier. She is my first so everything about her is going to be nail biting.:)

]]> By: The Saved Quarter http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6751 The Saved Quarter Fri, 29 Jan 2010 17:32:07 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6751 Denise, answer her question as correct as possible without being vulgar. She needs the real truth and is old enough to hear it from you or ask her friends, and you want to be the one she gets accurate information from! I'm sure it's embarrassing, but better embarrassed and have her not come to you for more detailed questions about love and sex than feeling like she can't ask you! There was a really good Oprah episode about this last year. There is even a handbook on the website for how to approach the talk! http://www.oprah.com/relationships/How-to-Talk-to-Teenagers-About-Sex My mom is a labor and delivery nurse and she's always been really open about sex, because she didn't want me to be one of her teenage patients. When I had embarrassing questions, I knew I could ask her and she would answer honestly. I think that's really important, especially as a high schooler when even good kids are likely experimenting or have friends already having sex. Denise, answer her question as correct as possible without being vulgar. She needs the real truth and is old enough to hear it from you or ask her friends, and you want to be the one she gets accurate information from! I’m sure it’s embarrassing, but better embarrassed and have her not come to you for more detailed questions about love and sex than feeling like she can’t ask you!

There was a really good Oprah episode about this last year. There is even a handbook on the website for how to approach the talk!
http://www.oprah.com/relationships/How-to-Talk-to-Teenagers-About-Sex

My mom is a labor and delivery nurse and she’s always been really open about sex, because she didn’t want me to be one of her teenage patients. When I had embarrassing questions, I knew I could ask her and she would answer honestly. I think that’s really important, especially as a high schooler when even good kids are likely experimenting or have friends already having sex.

]]> By: Denise http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6736 Denise Fri, 29 Jan 2010 06:45:55 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6736 ahhh...hell, I survived my daughter being in middle school....it's when they get into high school and think they know everything....PUBERTY SUCKS...she claims! lmao Mine is in 9th Grade now and still super smart...don't worry too much about it, she'll be fine. I'd love to hear all the horror stories you've heard. Girls do tend to be cady and you can only imagine what hormones do. lol And then there's the question as you enter the dr.'s office and are filling out the lab form..."Mom, what's semen"? lmao She said...I know what feces and urine is, but I don't know what semen is... OH HELP ME GOD! lol - Me: do we have to have this conversation right now...and of course I'm CRYING laughing cause I'm in shocked that I even have to have this discussion with her. There were about 5 other people in the office and you could hear them chuckling.... So I immediately email my husband and told him he should have the discussion with her. He said, tell her that it's the male conterpart of the egg. we get into a private room and we discuss it a little further. Of course, she says...eww...eww...eww On our way home...I asked her if she had anymore questions or anything else she wanted to discuss...STUPID ME! and she said...Mom, I just don't understand how the boys get the semen out. OMG....I damn near pissed my pants.... I said...this discussion ends here...sorry, we don't need to give descriptive information...THANKS! yep......I guess it's either you talk to them about it - or they'll learn it from other kids. I kept her super busy, off the internet and away from the Disney channel/mtv/vh1 etc, the hills, laguna beach etc....pretty much raised a sheltered kid! Wonder why little kids have attitudes...well, they're tuned into iCarly, hannah montana...etc! What happened to the smurfs, flinstones, cosby show, facts of life, full house, it's all garbage and bad news on the tv now. ahhh…hell, I survived my daughter being in middle school….it’s when they get into high school and think they know everything….PUBERTY SUCKS…she claims! lmao Mine is in 9th Grade now and still super smart…don’t worry too much about it, she’ll be fine. I’d love to hear all the horror stories you’ve heard. Girls do tend to be cady and you can only imagine what hormones do. lol

And then there’s the question as you enter the dr.’s office and are filling out the lab form…”Mom, what’s semen”? lmao She said…I know what feces and urine is, but I don’t know what semen is… OH HELP ME GOD! lol – Me: do we have to have this conversation right now…and of course I’m CRYING laughing cause I’m in shocked that I even have to have this discussion with her. There were about 5 other people in the office and you could hear them chuckling…. So I immediately email my husband and told him he should have the discussion with her. He said, tell her that it’s the male conterpart of the egg. we get into a private room and we discuss it a little further. Of course, she says…eww…eww…eww

On our way home…I asked her if she had anymore questions or anything else she wanted to discuss…STUPID ME! and she said…Mom, I just don’t understand how the boys get the semen out. OMG….I damn near pissed my pants…. I said…this discussion ends here…sorry, we don’t need to give descriptive information…THANKS!

yep……I guess it’s either you talk to them about it – or they’ll learn it from other kids. I kept her super busy, off the internet and away from the Disney channel/mtv/vh1 etc, the hills, laguna beach etc….pretty much raised a sheltered kid! Wonder why little kids have attitudes…well, they’re tuned into iCarly, hannah montana…etc! What happened to the smurfs, flinstones, cosby show, facts of life, full house, it’s all garbage and bad news on the tv now.

]]> By: The Saved Quarter http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6735 The Saved Quarter Fri, 29 Jan 2010 06:41:56 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6735 That was my thought, too! We live in a small, cozy house and love it. It's close to our family, friends, great schools, lots of cultural activities, and work is in the back yard (literally! My husband has a home based business!) Small means less to clean, and I can always hear what my kids are up to. With the same monthly rent, we could live in a much bigger house in most of the world, but we prefer small in our community with all the other benefits. And we don't have a lot of money, but I hate to think that someone would think we're bad people because of it! We're rich in so many other ways. (And my husband has blue eyes AND curly hair. He must be REALLY good, hahaha.) That was my thought, too! We live in a small, cozy house and love it. It’s close to our family, friends, great schools, lots of cultural activities, and work is in the back yard (literally! My husband has a home based business!) Small means less to clean, and I can always hear what my kids are up to. With the same monthly rent, we could live in a much bigger house in most of the world, but we prefer small in our community with all the other benefits.

And we don’t have a lot of money, but I hate to think that someone would think we’re bad people because of it! We’re rich in so many other ways. (And my husband has blue eyes AND curly hair. He must be REALLY good, hahaha.)

]]> By: Denise http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6732 Denise Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:07:58 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6732 I think Middle School changes kids........I love their innocense up until then - then they're tweens and begin to learn too much from others. The internet doesn't help matters either. We weren't exposed to all the non-sense when we were growing up..... <em>Me:Oldest is headed off to middle school this fall.. I heard so many horror stories. Especially about girls. Sigh.</em> I think Middle School changes kids……..I love their innocense up until then – then they’re tweens and begin to learn too much from others. The internet doesn’t help matters either. We weren’t exposed to all the non-sense when we were growing up…..

Me:Oldest is headed off to middle school this fall.. I heard so many horror stories. Especially about girls. Sigh.

]]> By: Smitha http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6729 Smitha Wed, 27 Jan 2010 17:14:33 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6729 I so agree with you - children certainly do not start judging people on superficial criteria like looks until they pick it up from us grownups. It would be so wonderful if we could learn that quality from children. I so agree with you – children certainly do not start judging people on superficial criteria like looks until they pick it up from us grownups. It would be so wonderful if we could learn that quality from children.

]]> By: Prashanti http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6728 Prashanti Wed, 27 Jan 2010 17:00:34 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6728 Thats true. I am reading the book called The Help which is about the plight of colored people in Mississippi back in the 1940s and speaks about how blacks were employed as maids and ill treated. One maid who cares for the baby of the house she works in says, Them babies, they are born color-blind, they love you and dont realise your color is different from theirs. Then they grow up and turn out just like their mammas and be nasty to you ! Thats true. I am reading the book called The Help which is about the plight of colored people in Mississippi back in the 1940s and speaks about how blacks were employed as maids and ill treated. One maid who cares for the baby of the house she works in says, Them babies, they are born color-blind, they love you and dont realise your color is different from theirs. Then they grow up and turn out just like their mammas and be nasty to you !

]]> By: Sands http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6727 Sands Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:57:23 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6727 That's a pretty cool exercise, me thinks :) That’s a pretty cool exercise, me thinks :)

]]> By: Lux http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6725 Lux Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:49:57 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6725 Wow...tat's a neat exercise for kids to work on. Wow…tat’s a neat exercise for kids to work on.

]]> By: Beaulotus http://asaaan.com/2010/01/26/rules-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-6723 Beaulotus Wed, 27 Jan 2010 13:33:38 +0000 http://asaaan.com/?p=2465#comment-6723 Haha I'm N°5 (I think) and N°7 (for now). Does that make me a good person? Haha I’m N°5 (I think) and N°7 (for now). Does that make me a good person?

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