2-3 weeks ago, I found a anonymous note stuck to my van’s window. It read.
This spot is usually reserved for the snack mom. Or like today, there was a sick older child and she wanted to leave her child in car while working.
Back story the church where I live, there is a co-op preschool,(hence the spacious playground I use). There is a parking spot right infront of the preschool. I use that spot because that spot mean my kids dont have to run across the parking lot to get to the stairs to our house.
I was a bit surprised at the note a)because the director never mentioned anything to me,b)the church didnt mention anything to me and c) it was a freaking anon note. I hated that. I kept the note safely and was hoping to run into the director so that I could ask her in person. Meanwhile I stopped parking in that spot. I parked across the lot and it wasnt that big of a deal.
It took me 2 weeks before I saw the director again. I asked her and told her the contents of the note verbatim. She informed me it wasnt her who left the note and neither would her 2 teachers have done it. She said it must have been a mum at the preschool who felt privileged. There was no such bylaws in their school rules.I asked her then whether I should park at that spot and she said its up to me. You have 4 kids and it hard to juggle them and their many things across the parking lot. Its your call. You are a tenant and we are a tenant. I cannot order you what to do.
I have started parking there again. But really I could park in a different spot. Its not big of a deal but now because I am pissed that some mom thinks she can go around leaving notes, I have decided I am not giving up that spot. What would you have done?
Hell, I would have parked in that spot too. The cheek of some people !!
Park in the same spot….
I would park there and wait for her to tell me in person…anonymous means she doesn’t have a leg to stand on!
same as starry.
That’s crappy. You park where it is convenient for you, especially with the four kids, and you living there, i think you should.
As for the person who left the note, I don’t think she knew the vehicle belonged to you, and you live in that building, she may have thought its one of the other mom’s and hence left an anon note, trying to not create a fuss with someone she knows. Just possible. So incase she comes up in person you needn’t bother I think, and if she does you tell her you live there and have every right to park just there.
Me: I did think that. Or she thought that it was some church person not belonging to the school…
You are very sensible.
How are things with the FIL?
I wouldn’t have moved to a different spot, since no one ever said that spot was taken. I can’t believe some people! You should send the note to http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com/
I think you should continue parking there.I agree with GM that may be the person who left it was a mom and didnt want to create a fuss if it was one of the other moms.If she comes up to you,just tell her you live there..but,in any case,I don’t think you shud park somewhere else,because of the anon note.
Me: Another sensible person
Zigzackly what you did! Go girl!
u better not give up that spot to the other lady…. PARK THERE… or i will have to drive all the way from L A to park there and teach the anon lady a lesson…; )
Me; rofl
exactly what you did
If she genuinely had an issue she would have left her name & number or some contact details instead of any anonymous note. Don’t bother about such cowards. Let her come forward and talk to you in person, then think about it.
Me: See she shouldnt even approach me. I am a tenant, as is her child’s school. If there is a problem, she has to tell the teacher/director who may appproach or go to the church board members.
What you did:-)
Atta girl!! People who doesn’t have the decency to come up in person and politely ask if you could manage with parking your car somewhere else as she has this (whatever) problem needs to be treated like this.
Me: See if that had happened. I would have given my spot up.
Did you notice who used the spot while you didn’t park there for a few days? I think then you might have found the anon love letter lady
Me: hmm It was empty or others various cars were there. I didnt see a paticular car in it.
It’s kinda tricky situation.I would give up the spot and take the next spot that’s convenient for me. I know it’s lame to do that – but i think this way.
what if she has an autistic older child who she wants to keep in car ,while she helps in school? Am i gonna get bothered and waste 5-10 mins of my time everyday after parking in that spot, thinking whether i did the right thing?
It kinda bugs me to no end , if i do something which cause inconvenience to some one else knowingly , even if they are WRONG. It’s such a waste of one’s time/energy to deal with such people.
I know that’s not good – but can’t help it. On the other hand she must be one of those snotty/mean person who just wants rest of the world to behave according to her wish. then, It’s upto you dear.
Me: Sigh.. I know..it doesnt bug me because there is another lot..Plus I am a mean bitch when certain things are concerned
I would have left that spot alone and parked a couple of spots down:). Long story alert .. The place I work has this parking lot that takes 20 mins to cross if your not in before 7 am. But the spots right at the door are reserved for visitors. With the implicit understanding that pregnant/sick individuals can use it. We had a bunch of consultants come in who ve now been around for more than a year or so who insist on parking in those spots inspite of being aware of the ‘unwritten rule’. Last winter we had a woman slip in the icy parking lot and the baby separated from the placenta. And yet they do not stop parking there(after being told personally by me when I was pregnant through the icy winter) because its allowed and the HR wont specifically reserve those spots.So I generally leave the spots closest to the door anywhere free for ppl who might ‘need’ them unless I have to pop in and out.If there is a sick preschooler to take home or a pregnant mom who really finds it difficult to walk will this spot be more convenient? If the answer is no I would totally park there. If yes than I wouldnt.:)
P.S.My first comment here I think:)
Me: nope Because no icy winters in Snotty Bay Area. And this is not huge trek across the lot. Its literally 15 steps across the other lots. I think if the mom had left her name, I would given up that spot.
Continue parking there !!
I guess like you said, it is not such a big deal. But again, if there was such an unwritten rule, she should have left her name to led support to her cause. I would continue parking there unless I notice that it is genuinely inconvinient for the snack mom to park elsewhere.
Congrats on the NaBlopoMo thing! Did you go to the sale in Los Altos?
Me: I have too much going on today.
..Will try tomorrow. Thats what pissed me off. The director took the note to ask them who wrote it. It would interesting to see whether anyone owns up.
Not going for any sale lately ?
You should continue parking there! No question about it!
Stay put in the parking spot and if you meet her tell her that she could have left a more polite note..I hope she was just having a bad day and she feels some remorse and tell her it isnt safe to leave a sick child in the car when she is working!!!(If I got what she meant)
Me: Thats what confused me as well. I asked the director, who brings a sick older child while working in a co-op. She said maybe she meant a sleeping child?
Been reading but barely commenting..Overwhelming stuff going on at home:(..How is your mouth healing? The day you wrote a post about asking the kids to be dentists , there was an adv on your page about a discount on dental plans (buy 3 plans and get the 4th plan 10 % off or something like that!).How is NK’s dad? Have a great weekend!
Me: he is doing well, long road to recovery but slow baby steps.
If it’s important to have a spot reserved the right way would be for the woman to contact the director of the Co-op and the church and get it labeled as such. Even if you do stop parking in that spot you aren’t guaranteeing that the “snack mom” will get it, since others might not know the “rule” just as you did not, so you might as well use it.
Me: I actually checked with my friend who used to go to the school and she said no such rule existed. She said, the rest of the moms would park there, it wasnt tfor the snack mom.
I wouldn’t have moved…I would park there intentionally just to irritate them more! I would even have asked my husband to park his car there if I was leaving! What an idiot..and really she probably has one child with her. You have four and I wouldn’t have moved my car to accomodate someone who can’t “sign” their name! Let her walk – she probably needs the exercise.
Me: You crack me up!
Maybe you need to write her a note (on the same note paper she left) and stick it on your window everytime she parks there – so she can get YOUR MESSAGE! lol
Me: She wrote her note on the back of a Valentine card. I regret not taking a picture of that card.
text me the school name cause i want to make sure i don’t send my child there!
Me: Okay
4 kids or not, I would have parked there.
If it’s public, it’s public.
She could at least have asked you nicely. Then it would be OK to give up the parking.
Maybe you should stick a note on your car for her : “I checked, this is not reserved for you. And where are your manners, while we’re at it?”
Me:
I started parking there again.Hey what are you going to cook for your lessons? You should do a post on it.
I have a series of cooking lessons lined up for different groups of people – may have made more promises than I could fulfill. And I’m not even earning a cent from them.
Will just do the simple stuff to start. Will blog about them when I’ve done them. This week I’ve been invited to an Indian lunch and next week I’ll throw another lunch and then the week after I may do a lesson.
Spring’s coming and I’m still as oily as a whale – how to go around half-naked?
Totally unrelated comment, but I think of you when I read my friend Trish’s blog, and her struggle with weight loss http://justthe6ofus.net/wordpress/?p=6471 because what you did with your exercise program/weight loss was very inspiring!
Me: Thanks Angie. My exercise programme has gone down the rubbish chute. I suck!I am off to be inspired by your friend.
An anonymous note is rude. Very, however you cannot control what others do anyway.
For myself, as a courtsy (sp?) to the preschool I would not park there during school hours. For me, it is more an issue about consideration than rules or requests. As a grown up parking there just to fix someone and make a point is as laughable as leaving anonymous notes.