Comments on: Answer some questions please

By: admin

admin — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:15:33 +0000

right.. and I dont think everyone has such different exs and marriages that it is difficult to say what is the right thing to do. I am answering them myself in the next post.

By: Poppy

Poppy — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:59:42 +0000

1. asaaan.com although I usually just type and visit everyday
2. Add ofcourse – doesn’t he need to see how great my life is? (Infact one of them is already there)
3. Spouse not on FB. He doesn’t believe in social networking *rolls eyes*
4. Yeah sure why not. Not close friends but Hi-Bye how are you doing? kind of friends. Am in touch with my exes – all of them
5. No way. Spouse is not the type. He doesn’t like bumping into his past – girlfriends, friends nothing. Is clueless/not bothered about me doing the same though

By: Miss M

Miss M — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 23:32:52 +0000

I’ll just say that as long as I know whats going on first hand and I don’t find things out from another source, I would be fine with my spouse being friends with his ex.

On the other hand, I don’t have a spouse yet….SO I don’t know for sure how I would feel.

Oh and I use asaaan.wordpress.com.

By: Clueless

Clueless — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 23:00:10 +0000

1. I use the wordpress link

For questions 2, 3 and 4 – it totally depends on the ex. I am pretty sure of me and my spouse, but if the break up has been uncivil or if there was some crazy stalking involved, I would not want the ex anywhere in the facebook friends’ list!

By: Guddi

Guddi — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:35:41 +0000

You found EX??? yay!! now tell us all!

By: Neha

Neha — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:16:46 +0000

Oh-kay, now that you’ve de-moderated comments, I see there are 31 and maybe I sound like the only insecure one But I’ll still stick by it because:

– I’m the kind of person who thinks that if a relationship ended, it ended after everything had been tried. There’s nothing there, and there’s no point re-visiting.

– I’m a firm believer of the fact that things like these end up in either unnecessary mistrust with the one you actually care about, or they lead to mind games. Who really wants either?

– Well, there’s no good way to put this: Once my territory’s marked, I like to keep it sacrosanct. There are no re-negotiations in relationships, and there’s no looking back.

Well, there were so many varied points of view, I had to come back and re-comment. But at the end of the day, to each their own.

By: Nuttie Natters

Nuttie Natters — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:14:16 +0000

Hi Asaan,

First time on ur blog and enjoying it…thought i would delurk and say hi and answer ur questions

1. To answer 1 – first time on blog..so Not applicable i guess
2. Yes i would add an ex
3. Yes my husband can add an ex
4. Yes friends with ex is possible…i am at least…though i keep it at acquaintance time friendship else it’s dangerous!!!
5. Yes again – i know i sound too good to be true but i am not really possessive. There is a reason why she is an ex and i am the present…No point fretting!!As long as i am in the know of whats happening!

Me: You are the 3rd new delurker on the blog. Waves hello

By: Uma

Uma — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:17:03 +0000

I just go to the website, firefox has this thing where it finds the url on typing a few letters.
If I had a real Ex (something I regret not having ) I’d add him depending on the circumstances of the breakup. My husband would probably not be thrilled by it though.

I’d be ok with my husband adding his ex, depending on the person. I know one of the women he had feelings for though they weren’t in a real relationship and I’m pretty ok friends with her.

Same as 1.

I’d be fine as long as it wasn’t hidden from me in any form.

By: Durga

Durga — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 11:00:25 +0000

1. Google reader- asaaan.com. Wish I can read the whole post in the feed reader instead of having to click and open a new window into the site.

2. I deleted my fb account. It I still had it – I would add him so that he can see how happy my life is and then a week later delete him – sort of a “hi, thanks for your concern – bye”.

3. Yes, as he is never on facebook and im teh one who checks his fb and adds people who’ve reuested to be added. Plus his best friend married his ex and her and I are now best friends too. It’s all good cos they were never in any serious relationship together , they just went out a few times in High school. MO and I met and married very young so we don’t have any real “ex’s”.

4. No. I have no interest in doing so.

5. Yes. See answer for 3.

By: Perakath

Perakath — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:34:16 +0000

Asaaan.com. Why?

So, tell us about your ex!