Your comment’s and emails were sweet. Its kinda hard being so far away. I cannot really fathom that he is gone. I cannot believe the next time we’ll visit India, he wouldnt be at the airport with the Tata Sumo waiting for us with a huge smile and candy for the kids. I cannot believe that he wouldnt be sitting on the sofa,with his glasses and his kurta, fighting with me over the English newspapers.
I have to recount another incident. When we visited in 05, I flew from Singapore to Delhi with the older 3. Neil was a few months old. He came to Delhi and then we all took the train home. I think we were in AC 2 or something. We had all settled down after dinner, I took the lower berth with Neil, the girls shared one and he was in the upper one. I told him right before he was closing the curtain thing, “Papaji app curtain mat band karne and if I call you, will you wake up and come down” I gave him more instuctions. So the next morning, the other passengers were asking him about me, saying appki beti(your daughter) to him. And he laughs and says woh meri bahu hai. The passenger was surprised that a bahu was talking to her fil like that.He never treated me like a bahu. He let me do/wear whatever I wanted while there.
NK reached his home safe and sound. The cremation was done today. They have alot more rituals to be done. I am sad that I couldnt be a part of them. I dont know what role a bahu plays in such rituals..I know as the only son, NK has to do a lot..
The kids know that dada is now gone. I told them he is now with Sheriff(my in law’s pomeranian who died a few months ago). Samar was asking last night if I go to sleep, will I die too? I told him no. Its their first week of vacation and all they have done since morning is watch TV. I dont have the energy to make the effort to do something fun.
ETA: I wanted to warn my US-India readers about this us.makemytrip.com site. I used them to book flight tickets from SFO to Del and then domestic flight from Del to Bho. The agent I spoke/chatted with was super helpful, giving me confirmed tickets on all sectors of the journey. BUT I got a call from my credit company saying did I authorize a charge for USD$3700. I was like wtf? I was told it would be $2400 for the international portion and $400 for the domestic flight. I emailed and called that site and they REFUSE to send me a detailed invoice with a breakdown in charges. I spoke to someone else today and he promised me that they are going to place a call traceback on my booking and if the agent was wrong, they would refund my money. I googled this company and apparently they are well known for overcharging and not refunding. I will keep you guys updated.
PS: I have Samar’s follow up appt on Friday. NK was suppose to go with me but now I have to go alone. Am hoping I do not have another hysterical breakdown in his office. Think good thoughts. Monday moneysavers would be back next week maybe?
Really sorry about this news. Just read these two posts. It is such an awful feeling to loose someone – esp a FIL like yours who treated you like his own daughter – not many people do that. So sweet – that extra effort he put in to add stickers to to the mail he wrote to the kids – shows his thoughtfulness and how much he loved them. Such a simple gesture but so touching…
May his soul rest in peace. That incidence in the train..I can picture it happening with my FIL too. Lots of similarities there ..and that makes me very scared too. Have become very very scared of death taking away loved ones lately, for some reason.
Chin up girl, you do your very best on any normal day to give your kids a fun filled holiday. It’s okay to just watch TV sometimes.
For the Fridat Appt, will send in my positive thoughts and prayers. May S come back with a really happy update about Samar’s tests next week
Keeping you in my thoughts. Here’s hoping that Samar’s test results will be much better this time
such warm and fun memories, S!
and horrid about MakeMyTrip! hope you get the excess charged money back!
i havent been very fond of em either since the time they once took forever to refund our money!
all the best!
hugs
Hope your FIL rests in peace. Hugs and prayers for your husband, you and the kids. You are already doing a great job, staying calm and hence keeping the kids calm. All the best for today’s appointment.
So sorry to hear about your FIL. May his soul rest in peace and you have the energy to cope up with situation.
Your FIL reminds me of mine as well. Make My trip has other hassles associated with it – Intl weight limits (for connecting flights after the intl flight) don’t apply to tickets bought from that site for some strange reason. Probably doesn’t apply to NK now, but something to note for the future.
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Hi Sunita,
Really sorry to read about your dadaji(FIL) passing away. You know what….he has such a regal bearing and really handsome too. For some reason even I feel sad that as a civil engineer of such acclaim he didn’t get to see some of the U.S.’s amazing architecture. But inshallah he will be watching over you from an even better place..upar.
*Hugs*
I still randomly miss mine and it’s not as if we were so very close or had a whole bunch of memories. It’s just that I liked him and saw so much of his son in him.
Sorry to hear abt your fil’s passing. I twas touching to read these 2 posts about how good he was. Please pass on my condolences to Nk n give yourself and the kids a big hug from me.
whats happening w/ Samar?